I turn 30 today. Here’s what I’d tell my 20-year-old self: 1. External validation is a hell of a drug. The sooner you stop chasing approval and start trusting yourself (while staying humble enough to be open to feedback), the further you’ll go. 2. Find what gives you energy. Cut what doesn’t. Keep optimizing until your default state is energy abundance. It makes hard things easier. 3. Figure out what game you’re playing—freedom, impact, wealth? Once you know, decisions get simpler. You stop playing other people’s games. 4. Take more risks. Most people play it safe. Risk sharpens your intuition, and your intuition is your best compass when you don’t know what to do. 5. Marry someone where 1 + 1 = 3. The compounding benefits of doing life with the right person are greater than anything you can do alone.