All the best women have incorporated the positive masculine, and all the best men have incorporated the positive feminine - can't be elite without being an integrated paradox. Just as you want a woman who can appreciate reason, and not be neurotically impulsive, she wants a man who can be tender and poetic - but just as you don't want her to be a robot, she doesn't want you to be a weakling. So these things are not replacement identities, but additions to the natural baseline. A man must still be a warrior, just as a woman must still be soft. A man who is *only poetic* will be too fragile, and a woman who is *only logical* will not be endearing. It's not either/or, but both. A woman wants a hard man that knows to be soft, like a man wants a soft woman who knows when to be hard. The best are both and know when each aspect is appropriate. Do you get it?