It's helpful for me to hear couples arguing in public. It reminds me that almost all arguments are not about the topic being argued over Eg right now I'm sitting next to a couple arguing about the guy's solo entrepreneur business. On the surface, the argument is about the right way to connect Notion databases to Google Sheets. But the heart of the argument actually feel like this: Woman: I think you're weak and incompetent. I'm upset that I ended up with someone like you Man: I want your respect but I'm resigned about you giving me any The way out of this argument is not to keep fighting over Notion databases